I Love You, Goodbye is about looking for shades of grey in a world that seems increasingly black or white.

I Love You, Goodbye stares binary opposites in the face and challenges them to find some middle ground.

I Love You, Goodbye is a collective ritual of letting go, saying goodbye to things we love in order to recast our relationships with them under new terms and conditions.

I Love You, Goodbye is about cookery, cultural difference, ambition, failure and the difficulty of making stark choices in a complex world.

The project takes the form of 'editions' where the performers cook meals, sing songs and pick fights in relation to certain themes. The first edition was 'The Brexit Edition' performed on the date the UK was set to leave the EU, 29th March 2019. The second edition was 'The Digital Detox Edition', which cast a critical eye over life online, presented in the context of Claiming Common Spaces II. The third edition is called 'Unfuck My Brexit' (which says it all) and takes place at Mousonturm in Frankfurt am Main, Germany.

I Love You, Goodbye (Unfuck My Brexit Edition)

Order! Order! OOOOOrder! shouts the Speaker as if the House of Commons is the world. There is no end in sight. Only a new party, the Brexit Party, gaining momentum. Everything else is the same as it ever was: we cook, we eat, we talk, we digest. Meanwhile, we gradually become what we eat... 

On 30th August 2019 we'll try again to let go of the old and embrace what we have in common. This time with extra portions of invited experts and plenty of food to share.


I Love You, Goodbye (The Digital Detox Edition)
Dear www, I remember when we first met.
You were so innocent. All that time we spent on the phone. It was difficult to connect. You felt so distant for such a long time. Slowly, slowly you came closer. You opened up and you opened me up and I couldn’t tell anymore where you ended and I began. I thought that was romance.
Do you know that expression ‘kill with kindness’? You wanted to take care of me, helping me find my way when I was lost in a strange town, helping me to get that Schnäppchen without leaving my armchair, you were there whenever I needed you. It was like you were always listening, always there with advice. I felt I could ask you anything.
I stopped asking myself what I wanted, and just asked you. What should I wear? What should I eat?  Where should I go? What should I think? But your excessive benevolence made me lazy and took away my power. I had so many questions, and you had all the answers. It got creepy, it’s like I would just look at you and you knew what I was thinking. You always allowed me to be whoever I wanted to be and over time I drifted further and further away from who I really was.
We need to talk.
Gob Squad did not grow up with the internet. How can something that was not there for almost half a lifetime be so unimaginable to live without today? It’s time to take stock and assess the myriad ways in which the digital world polarizes and divides us, how it alienates us whilst offering itself as our only real chance of meaningful connection. It’s time to broker a new deal.
The Digital Detox Edition will be first shown on 23rd May 2019 at FFT, Düsseldorf

A production by Gob Squad and FFT Düsseldorf, in coproduction with HAU Hebbel am Ufer Berlin.  

I Love You, Goodbye (The Brexit Edition)
How could you say Ich liebe dich, when you never actually understood my culture?
We are products of history, you and I. We are the outcome of decisions made in special councils, debating chambers, bedrooms and boardrooms. Pledged to be wed before we had even laid eyes on each other, like royal houses that after centuries of fighting, marry off their childrem to each other (Hannover, Wetting, Windsor and Saxe Coburg).  In the name of “Never Again” it was our destiny to be together.
When we met at the university exchange, you and I, we both ended up sitting together in the identity politics class where it was love at first sight. We believed it was us that were making the choices, that we were in the driving seat. All the choices that we made, we saw as part of who we were rather than some prearranged destiny.
Your exotic ways were novel, your knowledge of foreign language films and your wild desire to get naked anywhere was both shocking and exciting.  You loved my sense of humour and my cheap taste in fashion… Oh and your accent! Our differences gave us decades of amusement and fascination.
In fact on the subject of language, what does the word Heimat precisely mean?
But in the meantime, history moved on, and everything changed behind our backs…
At midnight on the 29th of March 2019, the United Kingdom was due to leave the European Union. Gob Squad are a German/British group that came into being through meeting on university exchanges in the nineties.  You could say we are the children of the European dream.  Time to reflect on the two sides of midnight.

The Brexit Edition was first shown on 29th March 2019 at HAU - Hebbel am Ufer, Berlin.

A production by Gob Squad and HAU Hebbel am Ufer Berlin.